What is happening in our schools?

Being a minor is not easy these days! Being a minor while attending public school can be and often is a traumatizing event. No, my dear readers this post is not about the recent mass shooting in Parkland in my home state of Florida that has irrevocably marked the lives of so many children, parents and relatives. The actions (and non-actions) of many during that dark day are still to be analyzed and examined by government agencies, the public and the media outlets. As tragic as that day was (my condolences goes to everyone affected by this shooting!), there is another topic that I have been wanting to address which is very near and dear to my heart. This post aims to bring awareness to the never ending cycle of school bullying that is ever so prevalent in the U.S. school system and from which many kids silently suffer.

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The double edge sword of school bullying

The world is changing fast and doesn’t shown any signs of slowing down. Parents and children caught in these turbulent times do their best with the time and resources available. What that means in reality is the parents work long hours to be able to provide for their children so they have roof over their head, food on the table, clothes, school supplies, and everything else that comes with being a responsible parent. The plight of the kids is challenging in that they try to not disappoint parents, relatives and teachers while at the same time fit in with their peers.  And the latter is where many fail by no fault of their own. “Kids can be rude” – is often said, and no one knows that better than kids who have been bullied! These days, the bullying is not only physical – like that is not enough to shame minors to the point they are afraid to attend school – there’s also the massive ridicule on the internet!

What does the data suggest?

The data speaks loud and clear for those willing to listen. The below excerpt neatly summarized by PACER’s National Bullying Center (pacer.org) paints a picture which is truly shocking! Here are some of the outliers of their work:

  • 33% of students who reported being bullied at school indicated that they were bullied at least once or twice a month during the school year (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2016).
  • Of those students who reported being bullied, 13% were made fun of, called names, or insulted; 12% were the subject of rumors; 5% were pushed, shoved, tripped, or spit on; and 5% were excluded from activities on purpose (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2016).
  • A slightly higher portion of female than of male students report being bullied at school (23% vs. 19%). In contrast, a higher percentage of male than of female students report being physically bullied (6% vs. 4%) and threatened with harm (5% vs. 3%; (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2016).
  • Bullied students reported that bullying occurred in the following places: the hallway or stairwell at school (42%), inside the classroom (34%), in the cafeteria (22%), outside on school grounds (19%), on the school bus (10%), and in the bathroom or locker room (9%) (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2016).
  • 43% of bullied students report notifying an adult at school about the incident. Students who report higher rates of bullying victimization are more likely to report the bullying (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2016).
  • More than half of bullying situations (57%) stop when a peer intervenes on behalf of the student being bullied (Hawkins, Pepler, & Craig, 2001).

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How does school bullying effects children psychologically?

The psychological impact bullying has on children has been thoroughly studied and documented.  The effect of which shows strong correlation to suicide related behaviors. The below studies (credit goes to Pacer.org for summarizing the data) show students are 2.6 more likely to attempt suicide when bullied! 

  • There is a strong association between bullying and suicide-related behaviors, but this relationship is often mediated by other factors, including depression, violent behavior, and substance abuse (Reed, Nugent, & Cooper, 2015).
  • Students who bully others, are bullied, or witness bullying are more likely to report high levels of suicide-related behavior than students who report no involvement in bullying (Center for Disease Control, 2014).
  • A meta-analysis found that students facing peer victimization are 2.2 times more likely to have suicide ideation and 2.6 times more likely to attempt suicide than students not facing victimization (Gini & Espelage, 2014).
  • Students who are both bullied and engage in bullying behavior are the highest risk group for adverse outcomes (Espelage & Holt, 2013).
  • Youth who self-blame and conclude they deserved to be bullied are more likely to face negative outcomes, such as depression, prolonged victimization, and maladjustment (Perren, Ettakal, & Ladd, 2013; Shelley & Craig, 2010).
  • The false notion that suicide is a natural response to being bullied has the dangerous potential to normalize the response and thus create copycat behavior among youth. (Center for Disease Control, 2014).
  • Students who experience bullying are at increased risk for poor school adjustment, sleep difficulties, anxiety, and depression (Center for Disease Control, 2015).
  • Students who are both targets of bullying and engage in bullying behavior are at greater risk for both mental health and behavior problems than students who only bully or are only bullied (Center for Disease Control, 2015).
  • Bullied students indicate that bullying has a negative effect on how they feel about themselves (19%), their relationships with friends and family and on their school work (14%), and physical health (9%) (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2016).
  • Students who experience bullying are twice as likely as non-bullied peers to experience negative health effects such as headaches and stomachaches (Gini & Pozzoli, 2013).
  • Among high school students, 15.5% are cyberbullied and 20.2% are bullied on school property (Center for Disease Control, 2015).
  • Among middle school students, 24% are cyberbullied and 45% are bullied on school property (Center for Disease Control, 2015).
  • The percentages of individuals who have experienced cyberbullying at some point in their lifetimes have nearly doubled (18% to 34%) from 2007-2016 (Patchin & Hinduja, 2016).

As seen from the above data, the effects of bullying can be devastating and can lead to lifelong consequences for the victims. A bullied child can develop negative cognitive views to his/ her capabilities, eventually starting to see themselves as unlovable and not worthy of respect or appreciation. This topic is not new and although teachers, counselors and parents try to fight the good fight of preventing bullying, it is a never ending battle for many who feel alone, scared and mistreated.  If you have a child or a teen who is currently being bullied, please take steps to help, and do not leave the matter alone to work itself out. There are many community organizations willing to provide assistance, support and resources.

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